Sadie Hawkins Tgirl [2021] -

The field is wide open, sisters. Go get your boy. Or your girl. Or your them. Just don’t sit on the bench waiting for an invitation to the game.

— Jamie is a writer and DJ living in Chicago. She believes every t-girl deserves to feel like the leading lady of her own rom-com. sadie hawkins tgirl

Not in a predatory sense, but in a protagonist sense. It’s about flipping the script from “Will they accept me?” to “Do I want them ?” Let’s be real: dating while trans is playing a video game on hard mode. We deal with chasers, with “polite” rejections, with the exhausting labor of educating every new crush. The field is wide open, sisters

It was a gimmick. A reversal. But for a young trans femme trying to navigate a world that didn’t have a map for me, the metaphor stuck. In the early days of my transition, the fear of rejection was a physical weight. The expectation was always that I had to wait—wait to be approached, wait to be “chosen,” wait to see if a potential partner was okay with who I was . I spent a lot of energy being passive, terrified that if I made the first move, I’d be met with violence or disgust. Or your them

Sadie Hawkins energy is the antidote.