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So I did the only thing that felt safe. I turned on the TV. The first week alone, I watched The Great British Bake Off on repeat. Not because I care about soggy bottoms (though, let’s be real, who doesn’t?). But because nothing bad happened in the tent. No yelling. No gaslighting. Just flour, handshake goals, and Paul Hollywood’s steely blue-eyed judgment—which, I realized, was predictable . In an abusive relationship, unpredictability is the weapon. On TV, the villain gets a violin sting, and the hero wins in act three.

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I drink it hot, not rushed, while he’s not here to complain about the sound of the mug. Scent: I bought a candle that smells like “vanilla and old books.” He hated vanilla. Now my apartment smells like a library dessert. Clothes: I wore a bright yellow dress to the grocery store. No one asked who I was dressing for. No one accused me of “asking for it.” So I did the only thing that felt safe